Recently I was having lunch with a friend and not 5 minutes into the conversation I wished I had avoided getting together. With each word out of her mouth, my stomach sunk deeper and deeper. It just felt like being punched in the stomach - Nothing was going right in her life, the people in her life sucked, she was always at the wrong place... a million other things going Wrong.
More and more I have noticed lately every time we hang out, I walk away feeling worse than before getting together. I feel drained - in fact, downright negative myself. It's like meeting up with a tornado.. I go in with a sense of calm and excitement to meet up with a good friend and then by the end, I am in the slumps, grumps and dumps!
I Googled (what did we ever do before Google, I don't even know) online about dealing with negative people and found so many different opinions and advice on the matter. Negative people are also know as Energy Drains, or Energy Vampires. They literally suck the energy out of you. It might not even be something these people do on purpose, but they can just go on for days complaining about anything or nothing all at once.
On the internet, there is advice to avoid these people so they don't pollute your Energy.. but what if it is a spouse (not saying it is!), a family member , or a very close friend? It would be hard to avoid these people! I clearly have to ruminate on the best course of action for this situation, but what would you do?
What does it say about me if I am so easily affected by this Negative Nancy? I have really tried to bring Energy and Light into her world, trying to uplift her instead of dragging her down. I once heard a story about crabs in a bucket. I don't recall the source to give credit to, but there was a bucket of crabs. As soon as one crab got towards the top of the bucket, the other crabs try to pull the other crab back into the bucket. This is similar to the negative people in our lives, telling us we can't do this or that, making us feel small so that we never dare question them and tell them about the Light we really are.
Next time we speak, may we think about what we are placing back into the world. Are we encouraging to the lovers, friends and special children we have in our lives? Or are we like the crabs that just want to drag others down? Do we lift others up even if we are going through tough situations in our own lives?
I keep coming back to this quote - one of my favorite quotes...because it is true.
“As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way”
---Mary Anne Radmacher